Happy Mother's Day

A mother's job is never done.  Today, I would like to take the time to thank all the mothers. Thank you for your hard work, sleepless nights, and never-ending love. This weekend please take the time to appreciate all mothers-but most importantly, your mother. 

“This is the role of the mother, and in that visit I really saw clearly, and for the first time, why a mother is really important. Not just because she feeds and also loves and cuddles and even mollycoddles a child, but because in an interesting and maybe an eerie and unworldly way, she stands in the gap. She stands between the unknown and the known. In Stockholm, my mother shed her protective love down around me and without knowing why people sensed that I had value.”- Maya Angelou

 

Do I Really Need An Attorney?

Last week, I had someone ask me did I think an Attorney was necessary for their matter.  My response, “I’m an Attorney—of course I think an Attorney is necessary”.  Everyday people enter courthouses without an Attorney present to handle their legal matter. In the legal stratosphere, these individuals are called pro se. 

These individuals make a decision that either an Attorney is not necessary to handle their legal matter or that an Attorney was necessary, but instead of paying an Attorney it is more beneficial or efficient to handle their own matter. Pro se litigants may not realize the value of an Attorney.  Attorneys are experts in the law, but Attorneys also provide their clients with a peace of mind.  It is difficult for many individuals to handle their everyday life and worry about a separate, pending legal matter.  Attorneys handle the law while you handle your everyday life. 

Most Attorneys, the attorneys that are really invested, assist you with handling your life issues as well.  Attorneys are not only experts in law, but Attorneys are counselors.  If you ever have a conversation with a lawyer, then I am pretty certain they can tell you about a time where they counseled their client with a “life” issue.  Yes; you really need an Attorney.  However, you do not have to take my advice.  I am an Attorney.  But,  “He who represents himself has a fool for a client.” 

The Importance of Team Work

A popular phrase is "team work makes the dream work".  Last week, more than ever, this phrase was applicable. While in parentage court, I was very attentive to other cases.  Most of the parties had children in common, but were never married.  There were a wide range of issues-- from parenting time (visitation) to child support.

However, there was a common theme throughout each case--dissension. Somewhere along the way, these parents decided that court intervention was needed.  The Judge said something that resonated with me "in order for a child to have the best life both parents have to come together and recognize the importance of working together".   Working together allows each family member to achieve their highest potential.

Children should grow up in an environment that allows them to see their parents in a caring and nurturing state.  This includes the relationship of the parents. When a child sees their parents working together, it cultivates a sense of love and security.  I'm not a psychologist, but a loving environment allows individuals to achieve a greater sense of self-worth.  A greater sense of self worth allows individuals to be more productive.  The old adage states that it takes a village to raise a child.  Ultimately, team work makes the dream work. 

Facing a Divorce

Unfortunately, for many marriages divorce is inevitable.  There comes a time when a couple has to decide if staying together is "worth it".  There are many factors that lead to a divorce. Surprisingly, I have recently discovered the state you live in is an indication of the success rate of your marriage.  To view an interesting article that discusses the divorce rates according to States click here.   

Divorce is a word that is associated with mixed emotions.  For some, a divorce triggers deep-seated emotions and pain.  For others, a divorce is a reason to rent a party bus and celebrate with their closest friends--it is an exciting, new chapter in life.  Regardless of how an individual views divorce, it is a process that an individual should not enter into alone.  If you are considering a divorce, then I urge you to find someone you can depend on or find a support system.  

Divorce doesn't indicate failure; divorce may be a step in the right direction.  Honestly, the end of a chapter indicates the beginning of a new chapter.  Wisdom teaches you that "sometimes the right path isn't the easiest one" Grandmother Willow, Pocahontas.