Finding the Right Attorney to Represent You

Attorneys come in different sizes, shapes, and colors.  As a potential client, it is important to find the right attorney to represent you.  When selecting an attorney for any matter, a potential client must decide several things.  I have come up with a quick list of things a potential client must decide when choosing the right attorney to represent their interest. It should be noted that this list is not all-inclusive. First, a potential client must decide do they “like” their attorney.  This may be an odd thing to state. However, it is important that you like the person that you hire to represent you.  It is difficult to assess a personality in a short consultation, but a person can determine if their attorney is likable.  During your first meeting, determine if you like the way the attorney represents themselves to you.

Second, a potential client must decide the objective in hiring an attorney.  A potential client should know what is the purpose of hiring an attorney to represent your legal needs.  The potential client reaching out to an attorney should have a rough idea of why an attorney is needed.  In some cases, it is very easy to determine your objectives.  For instance, if you are researching a family law attorney because your marriage is “on the rocks”, then more than likely you want a divorce.  It is important that a potential client decides what is their purpose in hiring an attorney.

Finally, a potential client must decide if their attorney is affordable.  When hiring an attorney, it is important to be realistic about your personal finances.  Find an attorney that is affordable.  Please keep in mind that finding someone affordable does not mean foregoing quality. Some mistakes are costlier than others, and hiring the wrong attorney can be expensive and time-consuming.  A potential client cannot afford to hire the wrong person.

“Lawyers are like wine—you can pay a lot of money for a fancy bottle that tastes like vinegar, or you can find a good deal that fits your budget and your palate alike” Karen A. Covy.

Happy Mother's Day

A mother's job is never done.  Today, I would like to take the time to thank all the mothers. Thank you for your hard work, sleepless nights, and never-ending love. This weekend please take the time to appreciate all mothers-but most importantly, your mother. 

“This is the role of the mother, and in that visit I really saw clearly, and for the first time, why a mother is really important. Not just because she feeds and also loves and cuddles and even mollycoddles a child, but because in an interesting and maybe an eerie and unworldly way, she stands in the gap. She stands between the unknown and the known. In Stockholm, my mother shed her protective love down around me and without knowing why people sensed that I had value.”- Maya Angelou


The Importance of Team Work

A popular phrase is "team work makes the dream work".  Last week, more than ever, this phrase was applicable. While in parentage court, I was very attentive to other cases.  Most of the parties had children in common, but were never married.  There were a wide range of issues-- from parenting time (visitation) to child support.

However, there was a common theme throughout each case--dissension. Somewhere along the way, these parents decided that court intervention was needed.  The Judge said something that resonated with me "in order for a child to have the best life both parents have to come together and recognize the importance of working together".   Working together allows each family member to achieve their highest potential.

Children should grow up in an environment that allows them to see their parents in a caring and nurturing state.  This includes the relationship of the parents. When a child sees their parents working together, it cultivates a sense of love and security.  I'm not a psychologist, but a loving environment allows individuals to achieve a greater sense of self-worth.  A greater sense of self worth allows individuals to be more productive.  The old adage states that it takes a village to raise a child.  Ultimately, team work makes the dream work. 

Facing a Divorce

Unfortunately, for many marriages divorce is inevitable.  There comes a time when a couple has to decide if staying together is "worth it".  There are many factors that lead to a divorce. Surprisingly, I have recently discovered the state you live in is an indication of the success rate of your marriage.  To view an interesting article that discusses the divorce rates according to States click here.   

Divorce is a word that is associated with mixed emotions.  For some, a divorce triggers deep-seated emotions and pain.  For others, a divorce is a reason to rent a party bus and celebrate with their closest friends--it is an exciting, new chapter in life.  Regardless of how an individual views divorce, it is a process that an individual should not enter into alone.  If you are considering a divorce, then I urge you to find someone you can depend on or find a support system.  

Divorce doesn't indicate failure; divorce may be a step in the right direction.  Honestly, the end of a chapter indicates the beginning of a new chapter.  Wisdom teaches you that "sometimes the right path isn't the easiest one" Grandmother Willow, Pocahontas.